Top 5 Reasons to Seek Couples Therapy
It is a brave step to admit your relationship has hit a rough patch, and it is often even harder to ask for professional help.
Why Couch Talk?
Hi, I’m Lisa Lutz, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I have been an individual and couples therapist for over fifteen years. I am in the business of helping folks improve their relationships with others and themselves. I started Couch Talk as a way to help demystify the process and to give a little window into the therapeutic world.
Sometimes couples come to me having never done any kind of therapy before. I always tell them that they must be brave, because for many, couples therapy can seem like the scariest of therapies. Many people secretly fear that they will be blamed for all of the problems in the relationship, or that the therapist will side with the other, or that sessions will just be one more place to argue and feel unseen and unheard.
Couch talk is meant to help you learn that good therapy is so much better than that. When you are in a supportive, warm environment, with a therapist who is trained in working with relationships, you will be guided through a process that helps you each approach your relational issues in a more productive way.
You might wonder how you will even start in couples therapy. I start my first couples therapy session with the questions “Why therapy?” And “Why now?” This gives us a place to jump in to the story and helps me to listen to what is real and present for you right now. It helps me to understand the struggle that brought you to couples therapy and how you have been dealing with this struggle. Typically, couples in distress are repeating the same argument, the same movements, over and over again. Most say things like “we are stuck in this perpetual cycle. Even if it gets good for a while, we find ourselves back here eventually.”
In that first session, I will also be listening for your strengths – I know you are more than the painful story that brought you here. Sometimes that is the story of how you first became a couple. It could also be the story of how you have overcome adversity together. These are all important aspects of the whole couple relationship.
These will be the building blocks of our work together. If this sounds like it could be helpful for you, please reach out for a consultation call. This call will involve both partners and will last about fifteen minutes.
Until next time,
Lisa
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