Who is Couples Therapy for? Couples Therapy is for any couple, dating, living together or married, that is not experiencing the type of relationship that they long to have. It may be that you are arguing more than you used to, or that your arguments feel repetitive, or you notice that you and your significant other have become more like “roommates” instead of lovers. Couples often describe trouble with communication, loss of trust or family issues as reasons for coming to therapy. Couples therapy can help you repair, restore and even improve your relationship.
What is Couples Therapy like? Your first appointment will be an opportunity for me to get to know you and your partner, and for you to get to know me. I will be sharing my therapy background with you, explaining what types of issues I treat, talking about confidentiality and expectations. I will give you a chance to ask questions about anything that you don’t understand. In turn, I will then ask questions of you, like “why therapy?” and “why now?” And then I will listen to each of you as you talk about your hopes and dreams for coming to therapy, as well as your frustrations with where you are right now. We will set goals together, and future sessions should feel like we are working towards the goals you have set.
What if my partner won’t come? Sometimes, one partner may not be ready to do couples work. If that’s the case for your relationship, you are welcome to come in on your own. The work that I do with my clients is all relational – meaning I will work with you on improving your relationship with yourself, with your significant other and with the world. Your relationship can benefit from the work that you do in individual therapy. If at some time your partner becomes ready to join in, we can invite him/her to join us. You and I will discuss how that will impact your therapy and make a plan that will respectfully include your partner.