I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I have a Master’s degree in Family Therapy, and extensive training in couples therapy. I am a Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist and have completed Intimacy from the Inside Out Couples Therapy training – Basic, Advanced, and several Post Advanced Classes.
IFS is a transformative tool that conceives every human being as a system of protective and wounded inner parts lead by a core Self. We believe the mind is naturally multiple and that is a good thing. Just like members of a family, inner parts are forced from their valuable states into extreme roles within us. Self is in everyone. It can’t be damaged. It knows how to heal.
IFS is frequently used as an evidence-based psychotherapy, helping people heal by accessing and healing their protective and wounded inner parts. IFS creates inner and outer connectedness by helping people first access their Self and, from that core, come to understand and heal their parts.
IFS is much more than a non-pathologizing evidence-based psychotherapy to be used in a clinical setting. It is also a way of understanding personal and intimate relationships and stepping into life with confidence, calm, compassion, courage, creativity, clarity, curiosity, and connectedness. https://ifs-institute.com/about-us
The model I draw from most frequently is called Intimacy from the Inside Out. I am also informed by the work of John Gottman – The Gottman Method; Sue Johnson – Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, and Esther Perel – author of Mating in Captivity and the podcast Where Should We Begin?
This work assumes that each us has access to an inward spiritual presence that supports the notion that human beings are resilient and have inner resources of self -love and self-regulation. It is a non-pathologizing approach that helps people make sense of their life experience in a safe and collaborative way.
In IFIO therapy, each member of the couple is invited into a process, which leads to a self compassionate, and secure relationship with him or herself. This then makes it possible to stay connected with oneself and one’s partner even in times of stress and relational rupture. The application of the model moves between fostering internal attachment work and doing relational work between partners.
Inviting the exploration of each partner’s individual’s inner life supports couples in envisioning a lively dance that includes: communicating well; repairing inevitable rupture; making room for the needs of both individuals, as well as the relationship; and exploring authentic heartfelt connection.